Do you struggle with getting your players to understand what you’re saying? If so then you might need to switch from being an Arrow to being a Sun.
The Arrow approach is very common in coaching, but is nowhere near as effective as the Sun. Not sure which one you’re using, then read on to find out…
The key to being a great coach is to be GREAT at reaching each one of your players. It’s the ability to get your point, or concept or understanding across to the player in such a way that she not only understands it with her brain, but that she can Do It with her body. Since we all look at the world differently, this can require multiple ways to reach every single player.
Lots of coaches take the easy approach to reaching their players, and that’s by using an Arrow. In other words, they only know ONE WAY to say something. If they change anything at all it’s to get LOUDER or to simply repeat the same information over and over again – as if the player’s difficulty wasn’t in understanding the information, but in actually hearing it.
Increasing the volume or the repetitions of an ineffective approach doesn’t make it effective, it only makes the coach and the player SUPER frustrated.
To be a more effective coach that’s able to reach every single one of your players you’ve got to turn yourself into the Sun, which means you try one way to reach a certain player and if that way doesn’t seem to work, then you try another, and another until something finally clicks.
Trying Another Way will involve saying the same thing many different ways, or thinking up a creative way to make the concept come to life, or using your phone to help the player see what you see. When you start utilizing the Sun approach to coaching you will begin seeing players accomplish things they’d previously been struggling with. You’ll help your players stay calmer because in your efforts to find Another Way in, you’ll stay calmer.
The next time you’re faced with a player that’s struggling to understand what you’re trying to teach, try to find Another Way in. Take a step back, take a deep breath and imagine how else you might say the concept or think about it. The more ways you can try to get in the greater the chance that you will!
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